Name: Be Vulnerable
Uploaded: 2025-12-03T21:26:51+00:00
Duration: 2 min 32 s
Description: In this lesson, we highlight the importance of vulnerability in building a strong, supportive relationship with an engin

Be Vulnerable

In this lesson, we highlight the importance of vulnerability in building a strong, supportive relationship with an engineering manager—because they can only help us if they understand what we’re going through.

- We stress that EMs can’t read minds; if we’re struggling, whether with a teammate, a project, or something personal, we should tell them so they can protect our well-being at work.
- We explain that good managers act like part-time therapists, and sharing when things are rough allows them to adjust workload, mediate conflicts, or at least offer support.
- We note that vulnerability builds trust, just like in friendships outside of work, and that trust significantly improves how effectively we collaborate.
- We clarify that we shouldn’t overshare, but we also shouldn’t hide everything—sharing selectively helps EMs understand who we are and how to help.
- We reinforce that showing vulnerability increases the “trust meter,” strengthens the partnership, and ultimately unlocks more powerful support from our EM.

In this lesson, we highlight the importance of vulnerability in building a strong, supportive relationship with an engin