Name: Partner, Not A Boss
Uploaded: 2025-12-03T21:25:07+00:00
Duration: 2 min 40 s
Description: In this lesson, we talk about shifting the mindset from seeing an engineering manager as an authority figure to treating

Partner, Not A Boss

In this lesson, we talk about shifting the mindset from seeing an engineering manager as an authority figure to treating them as a partner whose incentives align closely with ours, unlocking far more growth and support.

- We emphasize that while EMs have real power (performance reviews, promotions, PIPs), relating to them through fear undermines trust, collaboration, and growth.
- We highlight that both we and our EM share the same fundamental goal: maximizing our impact, because our increased impact directly elevates their team impact.
- We explain that when we grow, deliver more, and navigate the org effectively, our manager looks better—so supporting our development is in their best interest.
- We encourage adopting a peer-like, partnership mentality rather than a hierarchical one, which creates more openness, trust, and meaningful dialogue.
- We reinforce the idea that adding value to our manager—through communication, initiative, and impact—encourages them to reciprocate with resources, advocacy, and opportunities.

In this lesson, we talk about shifting the mindset from seeing an engineering manager as an authority figure to treating