I am working on building a framework and often I need help from a IC XFN partner to keep making progress in the project. However, many times they would not respond back or give vague responses on chat threads. When I set up meeting with them, they would not be quick to respond to meetings. I once asked them that I had certain questions that I documented after going through their codebase and need answers from them, however they would not take me seriously. How do I handle this in a positive way, keep making progress and unblocking myself? I want to building meaningful relationships with XFN partners and would like them to respect me however, it seems they are not reciprocating the same
Unfortunately, this is pretty classic workplace behavior - You will have a lot of coworkers who aren't exactly the smoothest to collaborate with. The good news is that there's many ways to tackle this problem:
On top of all of this, my advice is to try to see the world from their eyes and assume good intent. It isn't fair to just expect someone to give you deep help by default, especially if they're an XFN partner and not on your team. There's many reasons that could explain this:
Try to figure out what their life looks like as much as possible. Every time someone really strives to put themselves in another person's shoes, the world gets a tiny bit better. 😊
I view this as similar to the advice I give people when they ask questions: make it as easy as possible for people to help you.
So in your case, a few thoughts:
Finally, if you feel like no progress is being made, two things to consider: