I believe I have a good relationship with a coworker. My manager thinks we don’t. Should I ask the coworker to record a formal feedback that we have a good relationship, or are there other standard or recommended data points or actions for making this case?
What about something in the middle where you informally say over slack, "Hey just wanted to confirm, do you also feel we have a positive work relationship?" ... "Ok thanks, mind if I share this exchange with my manager?"
This is how you cure misalignment:
To make things clearer, here's some example scenarios after you talk with your manager:
Managers are extremely busy people. They miss stuff and get stuff wrong all the time. Not because they're lazy or mean or inattentive, but because being a good EM is insanely hard. So the onus falls on us as ICs to overcommunicate and keep them informed.
Here's 2 resources I recommend to help out here: